Not Just Boys Fun- Article by Lisa Jansen

“Not Just Boys Fun” - 7 Seconds

Man you’ve gotta problem, who made you fuckin’ king
A macho pig with nothing in your head.
No girls around you, their place is not at gigs,
Don’t want ‘em on the dance floor ‘cos they’re weak.
A woman’s place: the kitchen, on her back,
It’s time to change that attitude, and quick.

Showing us your phobias, you’re scared to see ‘em think,
You’d rather dress ‘em up in pretty lace,
All nice and colored pink.
You feel so fucking threatened,
When they stand out in front,
A stupid, passive piece of meat is all you really want
But it’s:
Not just boys’ fun

There’s girls who put out fanzines, others put on shows,

Yet they’re not allowed to get out on the floor.

Some make the music, well that you can accept.
Hell, maybe live you’ll get some tits and ass
You fucking moron, your brains have run amuck,
A girl’s only lot in life is not to fuck!


This reminds me of something that happened to me a few months ago. I was sitting at the bar after being done with bartending (I volunteer at a concert venue). Two members of a certain German band (one of them being in a relationship) and their roadie came up to me and pretty much asked me on the fly if I wanted to have sex with them.

They were not joking.

I was so shocked and disgusted at the same time, I could only look at them and laugh at the stupidity of their question. Then they tried to convince me to come to their hotel by telling me they had lots of weed and booze. First of all: I live in Holland. IF I wanted to do drugs, which I don’t, I could get them at every fucking street corner. Secondly: why would a few bottles of intoxicating liquid convince me to come over to a hotel room to fuck with three men I have never seen before or spoken to in my entire life?

I just laughed them off, not knowing what to say or what to think. That night when I finally got home, I realized that this incident didn’t ‘just’ disgust or shock me. Most of all I felt insulted. Why on earth would I let three men shove their (probably already overused) penises inside me, simply because they can stand on a stage and hold a freakin’ guitar? Why would they even think I would let them go ahead and use me for a deed that should be about loving and caring, like it’s no big deal? Do I look this available or is it just because I am a girl? Is this their normal routine when it comes to girls? Did every single girl they approached before me say yes and let three men take advantage of her lack of dignity? Her lack of pride, her lack of realization that she is in fact a woman and not a powerless creature born to lend her body to assholes like these just because they were born with a dick?

I’m sick of being treated like a freaking blow up doll at shows. I’m not there to fuck every boy with a mohawk or a visible tattoo, I’m not there to score punxrawk scene points and I’m definitely not there just to be seen and show off my ‘coolness’. I’m there because I love music and I want to meet people who are into the same stuff as I am, it’s simple as that. When I walk to the front of the stage and get into the pit, boys automatically assume I got lost in the crowd and ‘safely’ push me outside. When people stand close to each other at bigger shows, I feel men grabbing my ass. I don’t know why I wouldn’t have the rights to experience a show the same way as guys do.

Of course I do not want to generalize all the guys who visit shows, because when I go to concerts the main part of the audience doesn’t treat me like inferior shit. I just wish the guys who did treat me like I’m a prostitute handing out gift vouchers for free sex would think twice the next time they verbally raped me or any other girl out there who has or hasn’t experienced similar things as I did.

Thank you for listening.

Written by Lisa Jansen, originally posted in her Tumblr: http://smashtrash.tumblr.com

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http://smashtrash.tumblr.com/post/241755080/kimclit-iisabelle-not-just-boys-fun-7